Saturday, August 6, 2011

ATTITUDE...


I had a good sleep...I was not able to go online last night and when I wake up, I had these thoughts in mind ...Just want to share them with you...

I always tell myself that attitude plays an important role in one's life. As I think of my attitude towards life, I figured what I think of myself...my attitude...the who and the what I am as a person.

1. I think of myself as being independent, open-minded, sincere, truthful, loving and caring and most of all...nice and friendly.

2. My best strengths are my charisma, my good and effective communication skills, my attitude and character, and my wisdom and discernment over matters and circumstances I am faced with.

3. What keeps me going is my passion and zest for life. My desire to make sense and make a difference in my life and in the life of others.

4. If I could do anything I wanted to do, I would go to all people who are less fortunate and address all their needs. If I could only do this, I will be the happiest person in this world because I believe it is in making others happy that we find fulfillment and joy in our hearts.

5. I feel that I am special to someone when he/she gives me time and surprises. I love surprises...one just have to make sure that I will really be surprised. I know I am special because I will be able to feel it...hmmm...thanks to all the people who have surprised and who continue to surprise me.

6. I wish people will see me as a person who is easy to get along with. A lady who is compassionate, nice and kind. . . somebody who has wisdom and intelligence ... and who is happy and contented in life.

7. I believe that nobody's life is entirely free of pain and sorrow. It is about learning to live with them rather than trying to avoid them.

8. I am a person who maintains optimism amidst challenges in life because I am a woman of character. I will always consider challenges as liberating experiences.

9. My goal in life is to be able to serve a life with a sense of purpose.

10. Before my life is over, I want to leave a legacy because I want the goodness in me to continue in this world we live in.

In the end, it is not the WHO and the WHAT you are. Oftentimes, it is our ATTITUDE that matters and that makes us go through life...how we respond to our circumstances, how we make our choices and decisions...if we choose to be happy, then we will be happy...if we choose to be down spirited, then that will be our condition.

I choose to have a positive attitude towards life...because I know that it is this little thing that makes a BIG difference!

Sunday, July 31, 2011

Mean People Suck...



I was there! Yeah, I was a witness and was so helpless...Why? I was not able to defend a friend because I was in a state of shock and I was caught unaware. As I try to listen, I was really trying to figure out what the issue is all about. I thought of not mediating because of the high regard I have for the President of the organization...he was there and so I know that I am not at all in a position to intervene.

It was an incident I will never forget in my life. Horrible indeed! I rarely get the chance to meet people who are mean. I can't figure out the untoward incident when I went home, so I consulted some friends and went to the extent of making a research about why people are MEAN and what options are available in order to deal with them.


When people are nasty and mean, I have learned that we should not succumb to our tormentor's power. We need to have a high sense of self-esteem and confidence and respond bravely but compassionately to our villain's attacks. We have to use our own power and exercise our freedom of self expression. It is also good if we can talk to the person about his or her behavior. This will serve as a wake up call to her. In this way, she or he will be able to realize things. We should never tolerate MEAN people. We must have a little patience and kill them with kindness. Well, we should realize that the problem is with them and not with us.

So, these are the things that we can do in order to face the challenges posted to us by MEAN people. Definitely it involves struggle but we should always take a strong determination to face squarely and fight the person.

Well, I believe it will always boil down to one's upbringing and breeding...It can also refer to his or her value orientation. In addition, it also reflects one's attitude towards other people...the person's skill on how he or she deals with people.

Point in case, we should never give anybody the chance to be MEAN to us. They do not have the right at all to be nasty, to be rude, to be judgmental and to lose control of their tongue and say hurting words to us.

When dealing with Mean people, bottom line is to be calm and not to lose your control.


QUOTES:

Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rude to you - not because they are nice, but because you are. ~Author Unknown

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again. ~Og Mandino

I expect to pass through life but once. If therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again. ~William Penn

There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity.--Nathaniel Branden