Is Love Enough to Make a Relationship Last?

Hmmm...I am turning 50 this year and speaking of LOVE, at my age, I am glad to have gained many insights about it. With the question, "Is love enough to make a relationship last?", all I know is that it is not enough, but it is one of the most important factors that makes it work. I believe that all the other elements and aspects have to be considered for a relationship to last for this is the ideal, but sometimes what is ideal is not what makes men happy sometimes.

In relationships...especially in love, when one puts limits, boundaries, quantifies and qualifies what he feels, love becomes conditional. It is the same as, "I will love you if"..."I will love you but"...there are conditions set...and if these expectations and conditions are not met, we become disappointed. We are hurt, because we have set rules...set conditions that do not make us happy because there is no spontaneity to what we feel. We need to experience LOVE and we can only do this if we genuinely feel and express it in different ways to show our acceptance of and appreciation to the one we love.

Why NOT let love flow naturally? Just honor what you feel... not rationalize. Love should have no limits nor bounds...The very reason why we are not supposed to answer the question, "How much do you love me?" for we can only answer the question, "Do you love me?" Di naman kasi puedeng bilangin, sukatin at bigyan ng halaga ang pagmamahal.

I have known and have witnessed relationships that have lasted for a lifetime just because of love. People in the previous generation, especially those who are not schooled do not know anything about other aspects or factors to be considered, but why did their love for each other work for their relationship? Probably because they are real and sincere to what they feel and maybe because their love for each other was enough to make their relationship work.

Love may not be enough to make a relationship work, but it is possible. Pag nagmahal ka naman kasi...at kapag pareho kayong nagmamahalan...for as long as love is there...lahat naman ay posibleng tanggapin at gawin. Kaya nga nagtatagal ang pagsasama dahil me pagmamahalan pa. Kapag nawala na yun...di mo na magagawa pa ang mga bagay bagay ...you will not be happy na rin...at dun na nawawala ang lahat lahat pang factors like TRUST, RESPECT, COMPATABILITY, etc. Kaya nga there is really a need to have communication, compassion and forgiveness and the grace as we journey with our beloved.

Unfortunately, madali nga lang sabihin ang mga ito. At times, because people change, we have difficulty accepting the person. But with LOVE, fortunately we surrender to the truth and live with his weaknesses and limitations. Isn't this great? When we accept the truth about who and what the person is? This gives us a sense of peace because we do not fight the truth...no demands, no expectations from the person we love. We have to make the person know and feel that he is ACCEPTED, APPRECIATED and LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY.

Haaaaayz...basta ang mahalaga po...we have to experience how to love and be loved. Let us treasure the moments we have na me love pa...hehe. There are things we have to accept and endure sometimes because we have made a choice and a decision to love. What is important is we are HAPPY with our DECISION.

Why do my Family and Friends Love Me...

I was reading a book entitled, "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne when suddenly I just thought of the question, "What makes people LIKE and LOVE me? Why do they LOVE me? hmmm...katuwaan lang po...I have asked some of my friends and here are some of the things they say about me. Ego tripping me here...haha..one of the realities in life...di naman po lagi...naisip ko lang kasi tanungin sila...wala kasing magawa. Nagtatanggal lang ng stress pati. hehe...Ang sabi nila:

...smiling face.

...your warm personality.

...your thoughtfulness, humility, your genuine kindness and most of all your "kakikayan".

...you are intelligent, you talk with sense. You are pretty. What else can I say? May I add you have a genuine concern for others.

...your act of helping the "kapatid" the aetas.

...I love lots of things about you. You are so sisterly. You call your friends, "sisters" you are very kind, generous, sweet and thoughtful. I just don't like you...I love you as one of my best friends. Thanks for being a part of my life.

...i love you...eh kasi you are my friend...hehehe...kc like me, ur free ... we can go anywhere we want.

...mabait and madaling lapitan and of course hindi nawawalan ng sense of humor
ika talaga edaka a reach level up ka palagi.

...msarap kang kausap mam,.paang di nauubusan ng kwento.

...ur nice 2 me .. im js returning d way u treat me .. and idol kita mam kasi d way u carry urself...friendly syempre po...teacher plng kita i idolized napo u lalu na d way u speak .. sabi ko nga way way back .. sana magaya ko po kayo sa pagsasalita... sa english nyo ... idol po kita...parang wala po kayong ka stress stress sa buhay ...

...SMART...mission - people oriented...giver...

...you are smart and good hearted, kind to the needy, and of course, pretty.

...mabait, mapagbigay, mapagpatawad, napakatalino nyo po at marunong kayo makisama sa tao...friendly po kayo at honest po kayo.

It'S aLl AbOuT lOvE...

It is love month once again...I can feel that love is in the air...Here are some of my thoughts about this thing called LOVE...

                                  True love stands and gets stronger through  the test of time..

It means loving the person for who and what he or she is forever.  Loving her or his whole being, even his or her soul.  It is a love that accepts the changes in the person even if sometimes you are hurt by the person.  Well, it is very ideal to speak of unconditional love, but we have to believe and have courage that we can get close to it because it is surely an awesome thing that we can do or experience. I can only wish at the moment...I hope to get close to it as I continue my journey in love in this world.

Love has taught me to be patient, to endure, to understand, to give myself more because its real essence is to love unconditionally...

Love entails a lot of understanding because of its complexity. However, when one loves unconditionally, he/she will be able to extend this genuine love to others, give himself or herself. To really love is to care for the happiness of the other person, of the many, to forgive others for their wrongdoings and to accept what can't be changed.

It is always a great feeling to be loved by somebody.  We never thought that we need the feeling to be loved until we experience it,  and so since it gives us joy and happiness, and the feeling is something that we like, in return,  we love back.  But we should not love someone just because he or she loves us, we should love because he or she has given us love which we never thought we need.  Some people who are hopeless in love would believe that they do not need love, but when one comes around and that person makes the other person  feel he or she is  loved, then his or her world changes making him or her realize the importance of love.

You cannot give what you do not have

People who have so much love in their hearts can give more because they have so much to give. Only a person who has experienced love in the family will be able to love other people. Other people can have so many expressions of love because they have experienced these.

Love has taught me to understand people who defies reasons...

It has made me understand that love does not set rules nor standards, that it does not look into one's stature in life, for when one feels it, and honors it, he or she becomes short of reasons to justify why he/she is in love. It is something that one can't hide and so once you love someone you will do anything in the world for this person. Well, LOVE is a choice.

Love is when you bring out the best of the other person and the best in you...

I have come to know that when one loves you, he will support what you want to do in life. He knows that you can become a better person with the endeavors you are into and so the least that he can do is to be there to inspire, support and love you. With these, he helps bring out the best in you and the best of himself.

Love should involve spiritual affinity.

In love, affinity must be created on the moments shared. The spiritual connection must be felt and must be established. At times, when you think of the other person, you would know that he is also thinking of you because you are connected on a deeper level. You have this unique meeting of the minds and soul. You are connected to each other because your hearts are bonded with the strong commitment to love each other.

I have learned that one of LOVE's definition is TIME...

Make time, find time and give time to the one we love. There must be a will to do it. I would like to believe that when you like to do something you can find time, but if you do not have the will and you do not like to do things for your loved ones,then you find reasons why you can't.

The bottom line is that, LOVE's allure really fascinates us. However, our perspective of what it is depends on our experiences, our attitudes and our philosophy toward life.

And this is what my soul has taught me of what love is
through the years...

That love is beyond my understanding of what it is.
Beyond the words that I say to let others know what I exactly feel,
Beyond the feelings that I express through my actions...
Beyond what was, what is, and what will be...
For a genuine love is to give one's heart unconditionally.

To end this post, I would like to THANK my family and friends for all the LOVE...thanks for the unconditional love. Many thanks too for appreciating how wonderful I am as a person. Most of all, I thank the LORD for loving me so deeply! Tomorrow will be the day of the hearts, and so I would like to greet everyone, HAPPY VALENTINE'S!