Is Love Enough to Make a Relationship Last?

Hmmm...I am turning 50 this year and speaking of LOVE, at my age, I am glad to have gained many insights about it. With the question, "Is love enough to make a relationship last?", all I know is that it is not enough, but it is one of the most important factors that makes it work. I believe that all the other elements and aspects have to be considered for a relationship to last for this is the ideal, but sometimes what is ideal is not what makes men happy sometimes.

In relationships...especially in love, when one puts limits, boundaries, quantifies and qualifies what he feels, love becomes conditional. It is the same as, "I will love you if"..."I will love you but"...there are conditions set...and if these expectations and conditions are not met, we become disappointed. We are hurt, because we have set rules...set conditions that do not make us happy because there is no spontaneity to what we feel. We need to experience LOVE and we can only do this if we genuinely feel and express it in different ways to show our acceptance of and appreciation to the one we love.

Why NOT let love flow naturally? Just honor what you feel... not rationalize. Love should have no limits nor bounds...The very reason why we are not supposed to answer the question, "How much do you love me?" for we can only answer the question, "Do you love me?" Di naman kasi puedeng bilangin, sukatin at bigyan ng halaga ang pagmamahal.

I have known and have witnessed relationships that have lasted for a lifetime just because of love. People in the previous generation, especially those who are not schooled do not know anything about other aspects or factors to be considered, but why did their love for each other work for their relationship? Probably because they are real and sincere to what they feel and maybe because their love for each other was enough to make their relationship work.

Love may not be enough to make a relationship work, but it is possible. Pag nagmahal ka naman kasi...at kapag pareho kayong nagmamahalan...for as long as love is there...lahat naman ay posibleng tanggapin at gawin. Kaya nga nagtatagal ang pagsasama dahil me pagmamahalan pa. Kapag nawala na yun...di mo na magagawa pa ang mga bagay bagay ...you will not be happy na rin...at dun na nawawala ang lahat lahat pang factors like TRUST, RESPECT, COMPATABILITY, etc. Kaya nga there is really a need to have communication, compassion and forgiveness and the grace as we journey with our beloved.

Unfortunately, madali nga lang sabihin ang mga ito. At times, because people change, we have difficulty accepting the person. But with LOVE, fortunately we surrender to the truth and live with his weaknesses and limitations. Isn't this great? When we accept the truth about who and what the person is? This gives us a sense of peace because we do not fight the truth...no demands, no expectations from the person we love. We have to make the person know and feel that he is ACCEPTED, APPRECIATED and LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY.

Haaaaayz...basta ang mahalaga po...we have to experience how to love and be loved. Let us treasure the moments we have na me love pa...hehe. There are things we have to accept and endure sometimes because we have made a choice and a decision to love. What is important is we are HAPPY with our DECISION.