Monday, June 27, 2011

Would you help a stranger?

Today is June 27, year 2011. This is a day to remember because something meaningful happened to me. Just want to share this with you...

Naka mind set ako to be domesticated and to do some errands...I finished cleaning the house (with the help of Diana) and finished cooking our lunch before 12:00 noon. So, after us nag lunch, I and Gizelle, my daughter, went to SM Pampanga.

Our first destination is to pay our Internet Bill...hmmm....daming nagbabayad, so nakipila ako. It took me about 30 minutes bago ako nakapagbayad. After that, told Gizelle na punta us ng National Book Store, as expected, a bookworm would always want to hang out in the book store.

So papunta na kami ni Gizelle, we were walking towards National Book Store na, when all of a sudden a lady approached me. The lady is about 5 feet tall, me dalang bag at some papers. Sa tingin ko she is on her late 30's. She approached me and asked me if I can help her.

Sabi n'ya, "Ma'am, puede pong humingi ng tulong?" I thought she will just ask for a direction or ask something, but to my surprise...waaahh...sabi n'ya..."Kasi po Ma'am I will have my Medical Exam today at 2:30. I applied here in SM kaso di naman po kami na inform na dapat naka dress kami. Kung puede po sana, hihiram ako ng damit." waahhh....laking gulat ko! Sabi ko, "Anong damit? I do not have any dress except what I am wearing." I was talking to her in English and Filipino. Tapos sabi nya, "Nakakahiya man po Ma'am, kung puede lang po sana, makikipalit ako ng damit ko sa dress n'yo. Kasi po kung uuwi pa ako, di ko na aabutin yung time ko for the Physical Exam." Sabi ko, "Bakit di ka nalang bumili? Me mga mura namang damit dyan?" Of course, I was hesitant...waahhh...I will wear her dress? Kalokaa...sabi ko sa sa kanya..."I can't wear your dress..." and she said, " Ma'am wala po kasi akong pambili. Meron po akong P1,500 pesos lang sa wallet ko, budget ko na po kasi yun." This time, I looked at Gizelle, sabi ko, "Kawawa naman Seng, teka lang tulungan muna natin." Sabi ko sa kanya, "Ok, me extra naman akong damit dito,(I brought with me extra cycling and blouse kasi nga umuulan ulan)pahiram ko nalang tong dress ko and ito nalang suot ko tong dala ko."

So we went to the Restroom. Ano pa nga ba, so hinubad ko yung black dress ko, and handed it to her. Then, sya naman nagbihis...waaah...paglabas nya, suot nya na dress ko. Then sabi nya, "Iiwan ko po sa inyo tong bag ko, kasama po tong wallet ko, eto po yung pera Ma'am P1,500 po laman ng wallet ko." I checked on her purse at sabi ko, "Dalhin mo nalang yung P500.00 pesos kasi baka you need to be in shoes. So bili ka nalang ng mura." Nakinig naman s'ya kasi naka tsinelas nga lang dahil sa me mga baha. So nagpalitan kami ng phone numbers, Gizelle gave her number and got her number. He name is Regina(not her real name). I told her that we will just be at Mc Donalds and that she can text us pag tapos na s'ya. She sai, "Ma'am, thank you po talaga, kakahiya man po." Sabi ko, "I understand, Good luck!"

Naghiwalay na us after that, when suddenly, sabi ni Gizelle, "Ma, sabihan mo nalang din s'ya na manghiram ng shoes sa mga saleslady kung talagang wala syang pera." So I got Gizelle's point, kaya hinabol ko na naman s'ya to tell her what to do. Sabi ko, "Puede ka nalang din manghiram ng shoes sa mga employees, kung sandali lang naman." and she said, "Oo nga po, Ma'am. Sige po, salamat po ulit. Text nalang po ako." and then we parted.

Kami ni Gizelle pumunta na sa National Book Store, nag Mcdo, then, nag ikot ikot sa SM. We were there for more almost two hours. Tapos, Gizelle went to the Restroom, ako naman naiwan kasi nakita ako ng former student ko. Nagkumustahan us, the usual. Tapos, after few minutes, Gizelle sent me a text message na punta na daw ako sa National ulit. So I went to see her. Laking gulat ko at andun na si Regina, the lady.

So I asked her, how was it. Sabi nya okay naman daw. Tapos sabi nya, nanghiram nga sya ng shoes dun sa mga sales lady. She also told me na kailangan daw nya ng certificate from a doctor about her operation. She was asked to submit it.

So habang papunta us na naman sa restroom, tinanong tanong ko s'ya. A friendly query lang naman about herself. Nalaman ko na she is working in Clark sa Call Center, she is 33, and she lives in Cerhil Subdivision in San Fernando, Pampanga. That her family name is Santos(not her real family name). The family name sounds familiar. So I asked her how is she related to Ma'am Santos, a former colleague in my former school. She told me that her husband is her uncle. What a small world indeed. In addition to that, she told me that she is applying for a sales supervisor for the new SM in San Fernado market.

Hmmm...umabot na kami sa restrooms at nagpalit na sya. Sinoli n'ya yung damit ko na maayos ang pagkatupi. Sabi n'ya gusto nya daw sanang iuwi yung damit para labhan at soli nalang n'ya sa akin. Sabi ko, no worries, ako nalang maglaba. Tapos, I asked her kung saan pa s'ya punta. Sabi n'ya pauwi na sya. Sabi ko naman, me bilhin pa kami at we need to drop by sa Betty's to buy cassava cake. Sabi n'ya, "Sige po Ma'am, dito nalang po ako, maraming salamat po, ulit. Eto nga po pala para sa inyo." Sabi ko, "Ano yan, nag abala ka pa." Sabi n'ya, "Ako nga po ang nahihiya sa inyo, passensya na po sa abala." Sabi ko, Okay lang yun iha, naiintindihan ko ang situation mo." Then, I said thank you sa binigay nya, nag beso beso usat naghiwalay na.

Wala na si Regina...pero hindi pa rin maalis sa isip ko ang pangyayari. I need to process the whole situation and so I started asking myself. These are some of the questions that came to my mind.

Unang tanong ko sa sarili ko was, paano kung I rushed at tinalikuran ko s'ya. I coud have said..."Sorry, ha, nagmamadali kami." Just to avoid her because I do not totally know her....KASO HINDI AKO ITO...THIS IS NOT ME...

What if, tinulungan ko nga s'ya at peke pala s'ya at me maitim na balak like pinaamoy ako ng kung ano just to get what I have in my bag? waaahhh...HMMM...WALA NAMAN SA ITSURA N'YA...I WAS TALKING TO HER AND ASKING HER IN ENGLISH, MATINO NAMAN. I TOOK THE RISK...BASTA I WANTED TO HELP WITH AN OPEN HEART....

Bakit ako ang nilapitan sa dami ng mga babaeng naka dress sa SM? Why me? Inisip ko, am I being tested as to my consistency on my passion to help? DAHIL SIGURO AKO ANG NAKATAKDANG TUMULONG. DAHIL SIGURO ANG OPPORTUNITY PARA MAKATULONG AY DI KO PAPALAMPASIN.

THIS IS A DEEP INSIGHT...NAISIP KO LANG...ITO AY ISANG KAISIPAN...

What if the stranger was Jesus in disguise trying to see if I would help a complete stranger in need? THIS IS A SPIRITUAL INSIGHT...YES, FOR THE LORD'S PRESENCE IS IN OUR BROTHERS AND SISTERS WHO ARE IN NEED OF HELP. I wanted to cry...right now, I have this feeling...I thank the LORD for my faith, my principles, my wisdom and my values in life.

I know in my heart that I will forever be a woman of Faith...I thank the Lord because I responded to the call to help the lady...ayaw ko din namang mangyari sa akin yun someday...I helped her because one day I may be the stranger who needs help. Salamat at meron akong feeling of RESPONSIBILITY and SYMPATHY sa aking kapwa.

Indeed, to help a stranger is the best experience for me...kasi di ko s'ya kilala. Madaling tumulong sa taong kilala mo, but to help somebody you do not really know is a RISK. Buti nalang I did not hesitate, buti nalang bukas ang puso kong tulungan s'ya....Now I have JOY in my heart because I know that I was able to help.

In life, we are given opportunities to help and I believe that God has in store for us wonderful opportunities and ways to serve Him. Indeed, the experience I had was an opportunity for me to serve the Lord and to fulfill my purpose and bring greater glory and honor for Him. And with the incident I have experienced, my heart says, THANK YOU LORD FOR THE OPPORTUNITY!

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12 comments:

Anonymous said...

hmmm kaka inspired po mam... napaiyak din ako.. what if dimo sya tinulungan? kawawa sya, someone na walang malapitan...

SUPER LIKES!!!

Maria Fe said...

thanks...
I know in my heart that I will help her. Kaya di sya magiging kawawa. Pano kung someday ako naman yung me need ng help kasi? hmmm...though we need to be careful din...I took the risk dahil kasama ko naman ang daughter ko. More than anything else, I saw it as an opportunity to help. Isip ko nga kanina, pag niloko ako, I will charge it to experience. Pag niloko ako, hindi ako ang magdadala. Sya ang magdadala sa buhay nya. I helped because it was a choice and a decision and I know it came from my heart.

Anonymous said...

If I were in your place, I would also help her. Like you I also have the passion to help those who are in need even if I have to go out of my way.Kidding aside, dapat siguro nagsocial worker din tayo like cecille.

Maria Fe said...

Yes, Ma'am Emma...thank you so much...kahit di po tayo Social Worker we can help. I know you are into this po Ma'am, eversince pa. I would remember you telling us about incidents na kung saan me nakakaawang wento ng mga tao way back in our UA days. Thanks po...

Paulo said...

NICE STORY MA'AM! TWO THUMBS UP!!!

susan llanto saronicman said...

I'm proud of you Sis..naantig ang damdamin ko sa ginawa mo.Inspirasyon ka ng karamihan,masuerte si Regina at "IKaw" ang nilapitan nya at hiningan ng tulong.Alam mo sis,naisip ko ikaw ang instrument ni God para tulungan ang higit na nangangailangan.Kailangan ni Regina ang work para sa pamilya at sa sarili nya.Sigurado ako hinding hindi ka nya makakalimutan.Nakikiisa ako sa kaligayahang nadama mo.God bless you more.

Maria Fe said...

thank you so much, Sis Sue for the affirmation for my act of kindness. I know I am used by Him to be able to help. Kanina lang, I was busy in school because I raised some goods and funds for those who are affected by flood. Di ko alam that I will be able to raise such amount for those who are flooded. I just thank the Lord for giving me wisdom which makes me think of what to do. Thanks too to all the students who shared their blessings.

Maria Fe said...

thanks, Pau for the thumbs up. I appreciate it. I just want to inspire people with my experience.

Anonymous said...

I am just wondering what happened to the interview? Did she get the job? Hopefully one of these days you will here from her or maybe while shopping and you have complaint and ask for the supervisor, she will be the one to address the your grievance. May your tribe increase. God wants us to he Jesus Christ's hands and feet. Whatsoever you do to the least of yourr brothers, that you do unto me", says the Lord.

Anonymous said...

Erratum: Typo "hear" instead of here. Thanks.

Maria Fe said...

thanks for your insight...I have her number and I know where she lives. Yeah...who knows po...nobody can tell...One of the hardest things in the world can be to take determined action, the action to help others specially strangers. With the lady, I took advantage of the opportunity. I can't avoid to miss and let it pass me by, for I know in my heart that my soul will be restless if I do. With the incident, I thank God for reminding me that I am a person of opportunity. I know I am His creation of grace and mercy and I believe that serving Him through his people will lead me to ETERNAL DESTINY.

letty esguerra said...

Hi maria fe, i was really inspired by your deep sense of kindness to everybody notwithstanding their status in life. It was your passion and your commitment to express your sincere LOVE for every human being. How i wish i could do the same. How i wish my heart would open again to do kindness to people since i felt it has been closed for some reasons. Congratulations and God bless in everything you do.